Things Abusers Say And Do - Add Confusion/ Delusional

Things Abusers Say And DoName Calling

  • Idiot, Stupid Cunt, Go sit in the corner where you belong (dunce)
  • Crazy Bitch, Psycho
  • Whore, Slut, aa-olic
  • Heartless Ho
  • Says “woman” in a sarcastic tone or demeaning tone.
  • On the flip side, he may refuse to say your name at all to deny your existence
Intimacy Breakers
  • “It is none of your fucking business.”
  • “Why don’t you fucking leave?” or “Get the fuck out of myhouse.”
  • “Shut up”
  • Says “I don’t care about your feelings.”
  • Often leaves you hanging when he promised to do something with you.
  • Consistently puts his schedule above yours.
  • Breaks up often then comes running back, begging forgiveness.
  • Interrupts you when you’re talking.
Tells You What You’re Doing (But Is Incorrect) And Where You will Go, And where you will leave
  • “Yes, why don’t you stuff your feelings inside.”
  • “You’ve got your priorities screwed up.”
  • “Stop being a drama queen!”
  • “Stop crying – we both know you’re faking it to get your way!”
  • Tells you what your intentions are, what you intend to do, what you really meant when you said/did something.
  • Plays Word Games
    • Interrupts you when you’re talking, right mid-sentence.
    • Repeats “your exact words” but takes them out of context or makes up something that you did not say or mean.
    • Challenges you to remember “exact words” but you can’t (or he tells you you’re wrong) because the conversation is so confusing you don’t know exactly what he’s talking about anymore. Adds confusion and delusion...
    • Changes the subject to divert your attention.
    • Tells you what you really mean to say.
    • Drones on for hours, repeating the same points, getting no where, until you’re so exhausted you want to agree with him just to get him to be quiet.
    • Re-defines words to mean what he wants them to mean.
    • Denies saying what he said (even if you’re playing it back to him from a digital recorder, he will deny meaning what he obviously meant).
    • Uses tricks like abusive anger to get you to be quiet or listen to him.
    Tries to Make Himself Look Better Than You
    • “You have no money; without me you’d be lost.”
    • “At least I have a job.”.
    • “You know nothing about the real world!”
    • “At least I know how to make friends that matter.”
    Insults People And Pets You Love
    • “Why don’t you leave, have your geriatric dog leave too and I hope he falls dead.”
    • “Your mother left your dad to chase cock and you’re going to do the same to me!”
    • “I hope your dog gets killed in the road right in front of you!”
    • Uses threatening gestures toward your pets.
    • “Your kid is such a sissy!”
    • “I’m really concerned that your sister will influence you to be a bitch like she is.”
    • Uses racial slurs because he knows you don’t like them.
    Sexual Insults And Injuries
    • Makes you wear revealing clothing that makes you feel uncomfortable.
    • “You were just a good fuck.”
    • “Would you like to suck my cock one more time before you go?” (especially when you’re upset about his treatment of you)
    • Yes, you do have a nice ass, but so did the girls ass that I checked out and the girls on the porn film.
    • Turns his back to you while laying in bed to show he is withdrawing affection.
    • Lies incessantly, even when faced with proof, about his pornography viewing or cheating.
    • Makes you feel “dirty” during or after sex with comments he knows you don’t like.
    • Tells you to go to a party without him and then insults you, withdraws, or sexually assaults you when you come home.
    • Knows the meaning and value that you tie with having sex, but breaks up with you right after sex saying he lied about his feelings to get you into bed. Changes his mind later, has sex, repeat.
    • Uses crude names for a woman’s body parts and knows you do not like them.
    Insults Your Ideas and Dreams
    • The churches, restaurants, movies, etc. that you choose are not good enough.
    • Your career interests are “fluffy” or not real jobs.
    • Insults the gifts you give to him or acts disinterested.
    • “That is never going to work.”
    • Mocks and makes fun of you.
    Does Not Care About Your Medical Issues
    • You’re hurt after a fight with him and say you should go to the Emergency Room…his response is “Quit your whining and crying and leave”.
    • Major medical issue comes up and he is unavailable to comfort you – he just disappears.
    • Acts like a $10 co-pay for your doctor visit is going to break the bank.
    • Makes fun of your medications (happy pills, crazy pills, etc.)
    • Tells you that depression is in your head and if you appreciated him like you should you wouldn’t be such a sad sack.
    Thoughtless of Your Needs
    • Makes lunch for himself without asking if you want any.
    • Doesn’t take your dishes to the sink, only his.
    • Doesn’t help with the kids or household chores.
    • Does not ask you about your day.
    • Does not start and/or engage in thoughtful communication.
    • Keeps you up all night “talking” or raging. Interrupts your sleep for tiny things he could take care of by himself.
    Gifts Are Not From the Heart or Used As Tools
    • Gifts that did NOT come from his heart, isn’t wrapped, has a price tag on it, tossed at you with no emotion but scorn, etc.
    • Gifts given after fights to initiate your forgiveness.
    • Ignores (“forgets”) your birthday or holidays that are special to you.
    Disrespects Your Belongings
    • Destroys things that are important to you.
    • Destroys or makes you destroy pictures, diaries, letters, or anything else of sentimental value from before his relationship with you.
    • Throws away your clothes that either you love or he hates.
    • Gaslighting (purposely moves your things or changes your environment and then denies doing it).
    • Hides your personal belongings and says he doesn’t know where they are.
    • Steals your jewelry, pawns it, then brings another piece home to place in your jewelry box and pretends it is the “missing” piece.
    • Insists you promised to do something for him that you know you didn’t promise.
    • Engages in crazy making behaviors at your expense.
    Withholds Financial Information or Money
    • Demands that you shop for the household but doesn’t give you enough money to buy everything he thinks you should.
    • Makes you give him your paycheck.
    • Doesn’t give you access to the bank accounts.
    • Makes you believe that you cannot budget or save, that you waste money, or generally cannot figure out how to handle your financial matters.
    • Gives you complete access to the bank accounts and allows you to make financial decisions, but uses your decisions as a tool to verbally and mentally abuse you.
    • Closes joint bank accounts with no notice.
    • Finds a way to close your bank accounts using your passwords and security information.
    Threatens Or Intimidates You
    • “Maybe I should just do pot, porn and date other woman and then maybe you will leave me.”
    • “I should run you through the wood chipper out there!”
    • “If you don’t shut your ever-runnin’ mouth,…”
    • Says “This is YOU!” and hits something or says nothing but you know he’s hitting things to scare you.
    • Jerks the steering wheel from you when you’re driving or drives like a crazy person with you in the car.
    • Spits on you.
    • Threatens to take you to court over issues he’ll know he’ll lose, but be able to waste your time anyway.
    • Seeks attention by threatening to kill himself. Intimidates you into doing things for him by threatening suicide.


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